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Poetry: Paint Brush

Paint Brush

I keep my paint brush with me
Wherever I may go,
In case I need to cover up
So the real me doesn’t show.
I’m so afraid to show you me,
Afraid of what you’ll do – that
You might laugh or say mean things.
I’m afraid I might lose you.

I’d like to remove all my paint coats
To show you the real, true me,
But I want you to try and understand,
I need you to accept what you see.
So if you’ll be patient and close your eyes,
I’ll strip off all my coats real slow.
Please understand how much it hurts
To let the real me show.

Now my coats are all stripped off.
I feel naked, bare and cold,
And if you still love Me with all that you see,
You are my friend, pure as gold.

I need to save my paint brush, though,
And hold it in my hand,
I want to keep it handy
In case somebody doesn’t understand.
So please protect me, my dear friend
And thanks for loving me true,
But please let me keep my paint brush with me
Until I love me, too.

Bettie B.  Youngs

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You are enough. For yourself. For those who matter.

Morning folks

I just want to put some positivity out there into the Universe with today’s post. There’s nothing like a little motivation and self encouragement to get you through a difficult time in your life.

For those who are feeling like life is just getting them down or not working out the way you’ve planned, rest assured you are not alone. It may be cliche but I well and truly believe in the saying that, “What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.”

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You are brave, you are beautiful, you are enough. You are enough for yourself, you are enough for those who love you and for those who matter most in your life. Don’t give up, your silver lining is closer than you think.

Happy Friday, have a great weekend y’all 🙂

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SG- You alone are enough. You have nothin g to prove to anybody – Maya Angelou

The Art of Letting Go

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Happy Friday beautiful people! 

Lately I find myself constantly thinking about the past. Past experiences, memories, people I’ve met and moments I’ve shared with my friends and family. While I reflect on these experiences, both the good and bad, I look at myself and the state of mind I was in at that stage of my life and I think about how I’ve grown since and it almost makes me shudder to think how naive I was when I was younger. 

There is something to be said about reflecting on your past and the many ways it’s made you the person you are today. I always find it’s good to reflect upon what once was, however sometimes we tend to get stuck in that time. It’s easy to dwell on a time when perhaps you perceive that life was much simpler, happier or fuller. We can get so caught up in the way those moments and experiences made us feel that in our minds, we never really move on from it. We stay there in an emotional sense and refuse to open up to the possibility of making new memories and experiences.

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I find this often happens with love in the romantic sense. We’ve all had that one “perfect” relationship that we thought would be the one to last forever. Maybe it was with someone you thought was way out of your league or someone who adored you so much becasue they thought you were out of their league. Either way, it may have been the closest thing to happy ever after that you had. Until it all came crashing down. Funny thing about relationships, we know it will evolve in 1 of 2 ways, break up or marriage and yet when it dissolves, is there a pain worse than hearbreak?

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For a long time, I stayed stuck in the past of my previous relationship. Him and I had such a beautiful, deep, unique connection. I couldnt see myself with anyone else and despite not wanting to rush into marriage, we both knew this was something that could very well end up being “forever”. But reality hit and before I knew it, he ended our fairytale to seek greener pastures… As one does when you think you know better and when you think you havent experienced enough of “life” to settle down. 

I had to learn to let go of this man. Even though I loved him with every fibre of my being, even though I knew that he was the only one I could see the possibility of Forever with. I was in denial for a long time, thinking it was just a silly fight and all would be well after a few days apart. Sadly it was not so. After some time of mourning the loss and heartbreak, I picked myself up and decided to move on with my life. Fate would have it that I would meet someone in the most unexpected way and in the most unexpected circumstances. Murphy’s Law would have it that as soon as I began dating someone new, my old flame would realise he wanted me back and that he was ready to make the a commitment. Thats life I guess. When it rains, it pours. 

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This story seems a little off topic and long winded, but there is a point to all this. I struggled to move on for a long time after that relationship, every guy I met after the break up would be compared to him and it would just never match up. It was both frustrating and painful every time I dismissed an opportunity to get to know someone simply because I refused to let go of the past. 

But this new person was different somehow. After some time of hanging out and just getting to know him, I found myself opening up to him little by little as we spent time together. Having both recently come out of relationships, he understood the need to take things slow and just enjoy being in the company of another human being.  Almost a year later, I’m happier than I ‘ve ever been and I’ve learnt so much about what it means to love someone wholly without losing yourself. 

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It’s difficult to let go of the past, especially when it was a special time in your life, when you made experiences that are unforgettable. But when you finally find the strength to let go..You open yourself up to something new..something unexpected and something that has the potential to be even more beautiful than you could imagine.

 

SG – Let Go, Let God

 

Happy – Pharrel Williams – Cape Town version

Happy – Pharrel Williams – Cape Town version – click on the song title to view on YouTube

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Good day folks! This music video of Pharrel William’s latest hit, “Happy”, was shot and produced locally in the beautiful city of Cape Town and is guaranteed to brighten your day! Plus how awesome is this song?? Just makes me wanna hop, skip and shake my booty!

Go on, watch it… I’m so proud to call this place home 🙂

 

SG

In Love and War – A journey of my feeble heart

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Today’s post is a bit of an emo one, so please bear with me. The subject of love and relationships have been dominant on this blog as you would have noticed from the last few posts. The intention when I began this blog was to write about my feelings, experiences and thoughts about life, and also to connect with people who perhaps share a dfifferent view, diversity is after all the spice of life.

So today, my thoughts are turned to love and what we learn from it.

I’ve never been the relationship type. Throughout my teenage years I considered myself the poster girl for being free, fun and single to mingle. My friends on the other hand, were always dating and/ or in serious relationships. No judgement on my part but I witnessed the good and more often the bad that came with being so committed at such a fragile and young age.

Over time, I saw these fabulous, young girls compromise themselves in many ways, giving up bits of their soul and personlity to please their significant other only to end up being taken completely for granted or worse, being played and having their heart broken. “Never!!” I would boldly claim, “I will never be that girl”, I was determined not to change who I was for some douchebag who only end up hurting me. ..And then I turned 16 and met the heart breaker to end all heart breaks…

I met him through our parents who were friends and despite me not remembering him from our childhood, we apparently played together as kids. We were typical highschool sweet hearts even though we attended different schools, but you know I what I mean. I was head over arse in love with him and he was by far the hottest guy I had ever been with, although quite honestly this factor had little to do with looks and everything to do with how we felt about each other. We had our fair share of ups and downs and break ups and make ups. But we both thought that we were soul mates, meant to be. I think that when you’re young, relationships are something thats entered into with wild abandon and high hopes. Only to end up with shattered dreams and broken hearts.

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It doesnt get any easier as you get older, but at least we become (somewhat) more matured and a little wiser with each experience. Having said that, there’s nothing as intense as experiencing your very first, very real heart break no matter what age you are. I remember the very last break up with Mr Heartbreaker, I had recently returned from my first overseas trip and obviously it changed me (for the better in my opinion) but he couldn’t deal with it. So less than a month after my return, he called it quits and it left me shattered. I remember balling my eyes out as my mother tried to helplessly console me. Needless to say, it was a defining moment in my life. I’ve since had few relationships and only one other as intense.

I learnt a valuable lesson from my first heart break. I learnt that I was capable of loving and being loved. I learnt that I can in fact be girlfriend material and more importantly, I have not been defeated by a failed relationship. I took lots of lessons out of that one experience and it’s since made me a better person.

Love will inevitably change you as a person, it will make you see the world in a new light. Love is not neccessarily something thats promised forever, I believe in the saying “Reasons and seasons”. People will come in to your life for a reason or a season, but they may not neccesaaily stay, sometimes they are simply meant to teach you a lesson and then move on. Love is a wonderful and sometimes very hard teacher, but if you pay attention, the lessons can be so rewarding.

SG – “..Love is not love that alters when it alteration finds..” – William Shakespeare, Sonnet 116 (an excerpt)

Daddy’s Little Girl

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Scrolling through the Twittersphere this morning, I came across a series of tweets brought back memories and some realisations. Someone was tweeting about the effect her relationship with her father had on her romantic relationships with the men in her life. She spoke of how much effort her father made for her and her family to live comfortably, how he was there to sacrifice and provide for them and that although she never grew up rich, they were always comfortable. This is something that is rare in the majority of our country.

She spoke of how she always looked up to her father and would consciously or unconsciously compare her boyfriend at the time to her father. She never witnessed any fights between her parents, to her, they never argued and she thought they had the perfect family. This of course led to her not being able to deal with any type of conflict and as soon as any problems would pop up in her relationship, she would bolt for the nearest exit, afraid to fight it out.

This reflection made me think of my own life. I’ve always been close with my father; we’re often told we have similar traits and ways of dealing with things. I have many awesome memories of our childhood and the fun we had on Saturday mornings after dropping my mom off at work in the CBD. We would go out for breakfast, and then stroll through flea markets where he would buy me random, pretty things, he fussed over me and still fusses over me, except once you’re an adult, it’s more annoying than cute. However still to this day, I’ll admit I’m somewhat of a “Daddy’s Girl”.

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I’ve realised that I made comparisons between my boyfriends and my father in the past and even at present. I would constantly compare the effort made and the manner in which things were done, often unfairly as no one had the same upbringing and childhood (unless of course you’re siblings). This is only natural I guess, as your father is the first male presence in your life as child, (I realise this is not always the case for some). Generally the perception of who males are and what their roles are in society is shaped by what you see and experience from having your father around, this is how you perceive men to always be when you’re young.

My father was and still is, to me a fine example of the typical doting dad and family man. He has his flaws and failings, but he takes his role in the home and workplace very seriously and I will always look up to him for that. However I have come to realise that I cannot expect the exact same treatment from the guys I date. Sure there are certain values and morals that I refuse to compromise on but they cannot and will not be exactly like my father. There are traits and quirks that set them apart, ways of doing things, as well as how they show their love.

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I suppose the sooner I make peace with this and learn to accept and appreciate the differences; perhaps I will open myself to new experiences and a fresh perspective on love.

SG – A father is neither an anchor to hold us back, nor a sail to take us there, but a guiding light whose love shows us the way. – Anonymous

Rebloggged: 6 Ways Your Ex Shapes Who You Are | Thought Catalog

Greetings y’all. Hope Monday has been kind to you thus far and that your weekend was awesome in more ways than one. Just stumbled across this article on Thought Catalog and it really struck me. I’ve had my fair share of break-ups, not in quantity but in quality and what the writer speaks about in this article just makes so much sense to me. It also brings back a ton of memories that make me  want to both laugh and cry. Guess I’m feeling sentimental today. Anyway, click on the link and see if this applies to you at all. 🙂 SG – We are defined not by material possessions, but by the feelings in our heart and the madness that is love. (I literally just made up that quote as I typed it…)

6 Ways Your Ex Shapes Who You Are

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Valentine’s Day slow jam: Norah Jones – Love Me Tender

Since Valentine’s Day is only a day away, here’s a Norah Jones cover version of the famous Elvis Presley ballad, “Love Me Tender” to get you in the mood 🙂

Her version of this song is one of my favourite love songs!

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Cat lady 4 life

Pretty much along with the rest of the internet, I have a slightly abnormal obsession with with cats. I am particularly smitten with my beautiful tabby feline friend who I adopted more than a year ago at the tender age of 10 weeks old. Taking care of this creature has enriched my life in a way that only fellow cat lovers will understand.

I know that “dog people” will argue that dogs are more “superior” to cats, but let’s be real here for a moment, if cats can own the internet with their cute memes and viral videos, what exactly do their canine counter parts have to offer? I rest my case.

A few months ago, my kitty became a mommy to 4 beautiful, bouncy kittens. I’ve included some photo’s below, enjoy!

SG – “If you’re not a cat, you’re a rat, right?” – Aristocats (My fave Cat movie)

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Caffeine addicts unite!

Hi I’m Sky (haha, rhymes) and I’m addicted to all things caffeinated…

I’m not exactly sure when my illicit love affair with coffee began, but it’s certainly lasted longer than any of my (romantic) relationships. Coffee has been there for me in times of sorrow, times of exhaustion and it has been a warm companion through the cold Winter nights. Sounds like true love right? Well it is, a rich, dark roasted, steamy kinda love ;-).

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I’m aware that my so called addiction to this beautiful beverage is not good for me in the long run, but you know what they say about things that are so good it’s bad, or is it things that are so bad they’re good?? Who cares, I love coffee, coffee loves me. We’re destined to be. (I’m on a roll with the rhyming today, can you tell?)

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One of the best moments of my very first international travelling experience was getting to taste the wonderful coffee at Starbucks, it’s every coffee lovers dream to live within walking distance of this store, and when I was in both Texas and New York, I made sure I got my daily fix first thing in the morning. I even went to Java Jacks in Nacogdoches, Texas, it’s the cutest little coffee shop filled with all sorts of interesting books and furniture and of course, they make divine coffee!

What I love about coffee, (besides that enticing smell) is the craft with which it’s made, as well as the many varieties that it comes in. Espresso, Latte’s, Cappucino’s, Americano’s, Choco Chino’s, Cafe Mocha…I could go on and on.

Right now it’s Summer in our country which means warmer days and cooler drinks. Of course this hasnt stopped me from indulging in my drug of choice, as there is the wonderful concoction called Iced Coffee (the person who created this needs a medal or something!). Its literally the best thing ever to drink on a blistering hot day, you get a chilled drink made with ice cream (yum!) while getting the caffeinne fix all in one drink, gotta love it!

Do you have a favourite coffee blend, drink or even a favourite coffee shop in your neighbourhood? Let me know in the comment section 🙂

SG – Expresso yourself!