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About Skylah Giada

I write about the things that inspire me, things that annoy me and anything in between. Follow your heart, but take your head with you...

Strong, typical woman.

Amen to this brilliant piece of writing!


The age-old debate about submission has for me, brought many things about my lifestyle to the forefront of my attention. I’ve found myself doing things, instinctively; because that’s how I was raised, and even though I am a modern woman for the most part, I do still tend t do certain things in the “old-fashioned” manner that they were taught to me.

See, I’ve noticed this trend of women saying that they will never be submissive to any man, hell I’ve even stated that a couple of times, but with the death of my Dad, I wasn’t too sure about how I would handle certain situations, and then I had an arb experience:

We went to my cousins wedding in Welkom, what was supposed to be a stress free morning when we arrived as probably one of the most shocking experiences of my life. I walked into a kitchen, filled…

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Poetry: Paint Brush

Paint Brush

I keep my paint brush with me
Wherever I may go,
In case I need to cover up
So the real me doesn’t show.
I’m so afraid to show you me,
Afraid of what you’ll do – that
You might laugh or say mean things.
I’m afraid I might lose you.

I’d like to remove all my paint coats
To show you the real, true me,
But I want you to try and understand,
I need you to accept what you see.
So if you’ll be patient and close your eyes,
I’ll strip off all my coats real slow.
Please understand how much it hurts
To let the real me show.

Now my coats are all stripped off.
I feel naked, bare and cold,
And if you still love Me with all that you see,
You are my friend, pure as gold.

I need to save my paint brush, though,
And hold it in my hand,
I want to keep it handy
In case somebody doesn’t understand.
So please protect me, my dear friend
And thanks for loving me true,
But please let me keep my paint brush with me
Until I love me, too.

Bettie B.  Youngs

Reblog: Confront Your Toxic Relationships – O, The Oprah Magazine

Confront Your Toxic Relationships – O, The Oprah Magazine.

Greetings darlings

Just thought I’d share this post I came across on the Oprah Magazine website. The topic is dealing with toxic relationships and confronting them by asking yourself questions about the nature and dynamic of these relationships.

We’ve all had to deal with a toxic partnership, friendship, colleague or even a family member in our lives at some point. How we deal with these situations can either help us grow in a positive or a negative manner. Hopefully you choose the former 🙂

Hope you enjoy this post.


3 Cures For A Quarter-Life Crisis

Thought Catalog


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Two years ago, I was stuck in a job that made me miserable and living a city I hated. Every time my alarm went off in the morning, I’d feel a shooting pain go up and down my back. I used to call this pain my “Morning Edition,” because it coincided with NPR waking me up.

My Morning Edition would shoot up and down my back when I was tying my tie before leaving the house, riding the bus to work, and when I scanned my ID badge on the way in to the office. I’d feel it on the elevator ride upstairs, in weekly team meetings when we went over bullet-pointed to-do lists and discussed “best practices,” and when I was out a bar with friends, feeling my Blackberry vibrate with an email from my boss at 10pm.

The pain, which manifested itself physically as…

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You are enough. For yourself. For those who matter.

Morning folks

I just want to put some positivity out there into the Universe with today’s post. There’s nothing like a little motivation and self encouragement to get you through a difficult time in your life.

For those who are feeling like life is just getting them down or not working out the way you’ve planned, rest assured you are not alone. It may be cliche but I well and truly believe in the saying that, “What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger.”



You are brave, you are beautiful, you are enough. You are enough for yourself, you are enough for those who love you and for those who matter most in your life. Don’t give up, your silver lining is closer than you think.

Happy Friday, have a great weekend y’all 🙂




SG- You alone are enough. You have nothin g to prove to anybody – Maya Angelou

The Art of Letting Go

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Happy Friday beautiful people! 

Lately I find myself constantly thinking about the past. Past experiences, memories, people I’ve met and moments I’ve shared with my friends and family. While I reflect on these experiences, both the good and bad, I look at myself and the state of mind I was in at that stage of my life and I think about how I’ve grown since and it almost makes me shudder to think how naive I was when I was younger. 

There is something to be said about reflecting on your past and the many ways it’s made you the person you are today. I always find it’s good to reflect upon what once was, however sometimes we tend to get stuck in that time. It’s easy to dwell on a time when perhaps you perceive that life was much simpler, happier or fuller. We can get so caught up in the way those moments and experiences made us feel that in our minds, we never really move on from it. We stay there in an emotional sense and refuse to open up to the possibility of making new memories and experiences.



I find this often happens with love in the romantic sense. We’ve all had that one “perfect” relationship that we thought would be the one to last forever. Maybe it was with someone you thought was way out of your league or someone who adored you so much becasue they thought you were out of their league. Either way, it may have been the closest thing to happy ever after that you had. Until it all came crashing down. Funny thing about relationships, we know it will evolve in 1 of 2 ways, break up or marriage and yet when it dissolves, is there a pain worse than hearbreak?



For a long time, I stayed stuck in the past of my previous relationship. Him and I had such a beautiful, deep, unique connection. I couldnt see myself with anyone else and despite not wanting to rush into marriage, we both knew this was something that could very well end up being “forever”. But reality hit and before I knew it, he ended our fairytale to seek greener pastures… As one does when you think you know better and when you think you havent experienced enough of “life” to settle down. 

I had to learn to let go of this man. Even though I loved him with every fibre of my being, even though I knew that he was the only one I could see the possibility of Forever with. I was in denial for a long time, thinking it was just a silly fight and all would be well after a few days apart. Sadly it was not so. After some time of mourning the loss and heartbreak, I picked myself up and decided to move on with my life. Fate would have it that I would meet someone in the most unexpected way and in the most unexpected circumstances. Murphy’s Law would have it that as soon as I began dating someone new, my old flame would realise he wanted me back and that he was ready to make the a commitment. Thats life I guess. When it rains, it pours. 



This story seems a little off topic and long winded, but there is a point to all this. I struggled to move on for a long time after that relationship, every guy I met after the break up would be compared to him and it would just never match up. It was both frustrating and painful every time I dismissed an opportunity to get to know someone simply because I refused to let go of the past. 

But this new person was different somehow. After some time of hanging out and just getting to know him, I found myself opening up to him little by little as we spent time together. Having both recently come out of relationships, he understood the need to take things slow and just enjoy being in the company of another human being.  Almost a year later, I’m happier than I ‘ve ever been and I’ve learnt so much about what it means to love someone wholly without losing yourself. 



It’s difficult to let go of the past, especially when it was a special time in your life, when you made experiences that are unforgettable. But when you finally find the strength to let go..You open yourself up to something new..something unexpected and something that has the potential to be even more beautiful than you could imagine.


SG – Let Go, Let God


Happy – Pharrel Williams – Cape Town version

Happy – Pharrel Williams – Cape Town version – click on the song title to view on YouTube


Good day folks! This music video of Pharrel William’s latest hit, “Happy”, was shot and produced locally in the beautiful city of Cape Town and is guaranteed to brighten your day! Plus how awesome is this song?? Just makes me wanna hop, skip and shake my booty!

Go on, watch it… I’m so proud to call this place home 🙂



Admitting To Your Heartbreak Is The First Step To Stitching Your Heart Back Together

I love this… Profound

Thought Catalog

There’s a reason we talk about dating so much — there’s a reason the undercurrent of lost love runs through so much of writing. It’s hard. It’s hard because it matters. But it’s harder when we put expectation on things that already mean a lot. We inflate them and when they fall flat, so do we.

We spend billions of dollars a year on romance: on dating and love and weddings, let alone the online dating and matchmaking portals that are everywhere you turn now. We’re progressive about relationships not being the end all of happiness, but that doesn’t take away the want, the need, for that kind of human desire.

It sometimes feels like we’re conditioned to want someone in our lives, like if we don’t have that person, there might be something wrong with us. That we’re defective somehow, that we must have done something to drive love…

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Music to get you through

Howdy guys,

It’s Thursday and the weekend is nearly upon us (Yippeee!!). I thought I’d share some more musical posts with you since this is all that often gets me through a manic day filled with crazy deadlines and irrational people. This playlist is a collection of some old, new and in between songs that always get me in to the groove.

Have a listen, and let your ears be soothed!


SG – “One thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain” – Bob Marley

In Love and War – A journey of my feeble heart



Today’s post is a bit of an emo one, so please bear with me. The subject of love and relationships have been dominant on this blog as you would have noticed from the last few posts. The intention when I began this blog was to write about my feelings, experiences and thoughts about life, and also to connect with people who perhaps share a dfifferent view, diversity is after all the spice of life.

So today, my thoughts are turned to love and what we learn from it.

I’ve never been the relationship type. Throughout my teenage years I considered myself the poster girl for being free, fun and single to mingle. My friends on the other hand, were always dating and/ or in serious relationships. No judgement on my part but I witnessed the good and more often the bad that came with being so committed at such a fragile and young age.

Over time, I saw these fabulous, young girls compromise themselves in many ways, giving up bits of their soul and personlity to please their significant other only to end up being taken completely for granted or worse, being played and having their heart broken. “Never!!” I would boldly claim, “I will never be that girl”, I was determined not to change who I was for some douchebag who only end up hurting me. ..And then I turned 16 and met the heart breaker to end all heart breaks…

I met him through our parents who were friends and despite me not remembering him from our childhood, we apparently played together as kids. We were typical highschool sweet hearts even though we attended different schools, but you know I what I mean. I was head over arse in love with him and he was by far the hottest guy I had ever been with, although quite honestly this factor had little to do with looks and everything to do with how we felt about each other. We had our fair share of ups and downs and break ups and make ups. But we both thought that we were soul mates, meant to be. I think that when you’re young, relationships are something thats entered into with wild abandon and high hopes. Only to end up with shattered dreams and broken hearts.



It doesnt get any easier as you get older, but at least we become (somewhat) more matured and a little wiser with each experience. Having said that, there’s nothing as intense as experiencing your very first, very real heart break no matter what age you are. I remember the very last break up with Mr Heartbreaker, I had recently returned from my first overseas trip and obviously it changed me (for the better in my opinion) but he couldn’t deal with it. So less than a month after my return, he called it quits and it left me shattered. I remember balling my eyes out as my mother tried to helplessly console me. Needless to say, it was a defining moment in my life. I’ve since had few relationships and only one other as intense.

I learnt a valuable lesson from my first heart break. I learnt that I was capable of loving and being loved. I learnt that I can in fact be girlfriend material and more importantly, I have not been defeated by a failed relationship. I took lots of lessons out of that one experience and it’s since made me a better person.

Love will inevitably change you as a person, it will make you see the world in a new light. Love is not neccessarily something thats promised forever, I believe in the saying “Reasons and seasons”. People will come in to your life for a reason or a season, but they may not neccesaaily stay, sometimes they are simply meant to teach you a lesson and then move on. Love is a wonderful and sometimes very hard teacher, but if you pay attention, the lessons can be so rewarding.

SG – “..Love is not love that alters when it alteration finds..” – William Shakespeare, Sonnet 116 (an excerpt)