Hey folks, it’s that time of year again. Love is in the air and we’re being bombarded with a flurry of red and white themed advertising messages. These corny, sometimes over the top messages attempt to persuade us to shower our Valentine with unreasonably priced gifts, all in the name of Love …and commercialism (but that’s the part they leave out, naturally). After all, what better way to show that special someone that you really care for them than by giving them a stuffed teddy bear with the words, “I love you” stitched on to it’s stomach?? Take me now Jean Pierre, take me now. NOT.
Now before you go dismissing me as yet another Valentine’s Day cynic, hear me out. I’m all for expressions of undying love and having a day dedicated to the concept of taking out time out to show and tell someone how much they mean to you. I am not however, supportive of the crazy, commercialised, money making business that this day has become. I’ve always felt so sorry for my male friends when it comes to this time of year. There’s so much pressure and expectation from what we see in the movies, commercials or even from past experiences that more often than not it becomes somewhat of a comeptition to see who got the most extravagant gift. (Kinda like Christmas, right?)
It’s that one day in the year where (some) females literally lose their shit over something that, in the bigger scheme of things, hardly has any long lasting value (even if you get that stunning rose bouquet from Woolworths, it will die after a week). The expectations that some women have for this day is crazy. Ranging from insanely expensive dinners at some over priced restaurant (which will be choc a block full because half the city had the same idea as you) to even expecting to be proposed to! For the gentlemen out there, I do so pity you on these occasions.
Rest assured there are ways and means to get through Valentine’s Day without ending up in the dog box or worse, ending up single.
For those in relationships, why not make plans together? Draw up a list of exciting and romantic activities that you will both enjoy, make it something fun, memorable and something that won’t break the bank. There’s far more value in doing something that you’ve both decided on together than leaving it up to the man, only for the woman to end up disappointed and frustrated. Another option..Ladies, why don’t you surprise your man for a change? Who said Valentine’s Day is only about the females? Y’all want equality right? 😉
Personally, I’ve decided to cook a special 3 course, candle lit dinner for my boo at home, I’ve made a special Valentine’s Day playlist (woohoo for the concept of mixed tapes, haha) and I intend on spoiling him by making all his favourite dishes.
For me, Valentine’s Day is about love. Real, genuine, sincere love. And not just the romantic kind. Love comes in all shapes, types and sizes. Showing you love someone is about more than gifts and the money you spend on them. It’s about acts of kindness, and remembering that at the end of the day, we’re all just humans wanting to love and be loved.
I hope whatever you do, however and whoever you celebrate this day with, that it’s filled with only the happy, positive emotions that love brings.
“Spread love wherever you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.” – Anonymous